You are not alone. We all have been there. These 3 steps may just outline what you need to do to deal with it but after all, it’s completely up to you to actually deal with it. Just know one thing: this is not the end of the world; everything will be fine just that it may take some time. So without any further ado, let’s start this journey of recovery.
- Stop being desperate
The internet has made it a lot easier to keep an eye on our exes but just because we can, doesn’t mean that we should. After all, it is you who has been heartbroken. Your ex might not even be feeling the same — ignore them. Let them post about how good (or bad) their life has become lately and if they are intentionally posting such content for you to see, you know it was never meant to be. And if they have blocked you, you might be feeling that urge to look into their lives/contact them just so you can have a talk but ask yourself this: is it worth it? They have blocked you anyway which means they do not want to be in contact with you, even digitally. Let them go.
Embrace the fact that you invested a massive time in that relationship but most of it has gone in vain. The time that has not must have taught you some things and one of such things could be how not to handle the relationships. That might come in handy for your next relationship (yes, your ex is not the last person on this planet and you will get in a better relationship the next time if you don’t let yourself wallow in self-pity).
It might take some time for you to overcome that state of desperateness and that will usually be commensurate with the time you had spent with your ex. You need to stop looking at all those photos of you having a good time with them. It is not easy to not have a glimpse of the terrific time you had with them just this last week. So misguide your mind into thinking that those photos are just memories that you will be looking at the next year — something that everyone will be doing the next year if they have come back from a vacation today.
2. Deviate your mind
Now that you have stopped yourself from being desperate, you are ready for this next step. But note one thing: you cannot go back to being in the same state as you were in before the previous step. So if you feel that you have overcome that feeling, start deviating your mind. Do something that is not in your routine and is new to your mind. It could be anything: learning a new language or an instrument or just going for a run daily. What was that thing that you have wanted to do?
Exercising is also a great way to let that electrifying buzz run past you. You will start feeling better each day when you are beating your last best and that sense of accomplishment you get with each passing day will make you ready for the next step.
3. Get back in the field
That new thing you brought to your routine has helped you tremendously and now you are ready to meet your potential life partner who will be with you in your ups and downs.
Join online dating or start meeting new people in the events or maybe just start a conversation with a person you see on a bus — you never know where that might end. The most important thing is to meet new people. Your future girlfriend or boyfriend is out there; you just need to look hard enough.
And with this, you are back to normal and you didn’t even realise it. Life’s pretty strange, right? It can surprise us at any time.
